Hello everyone,
It has been a very long time. And i hope you understand by reading this the reasons I have been Missing In Action.
I’ve toyed with the idea of writing this blog for well over a year now. But through my own struggles, I decided I wasn’t in the best place to articulate what I wanted to say.
As a really big disclosure, I am still not OK, and am struggling mentally at the moment but the one thing I have learnt this past few years is that if we don’t talk about mental health, and genuine well being in a candid way, then we contribute to the taboo it has been for as long as I can remember, and longer.
Let me be frank, I am not writing this for sympathy. I want people to hear that I’m not OK, and if they to are not OK, that is fine to. this past year has thrown so much at so many of us and even my most stoic friends have opened up they have struggled.
So for me, someone who already has experienced anxiety and stress through various periods of my life, it’s no wonder I had a pretty bad mental break down last year.
I thought I had it under control. Yes, I was feeling anxious. I was struggling concentrating and all of my triggers had indeed been triggered. But, instead of taking care of me, I tried to carry on.
We had just come out of the first lock down, and I wanted to be that “strong” person who could just get back into life and blows to Covid-19. But the strains of social distancing, others attitudes toward disabled people really hit me like a 7 ton truck. Also being locked away from people, friends and family took its toll.
Having a mental health condition, you would think I would know when I’m spiralling. But sometimes, you think, one day of feeling anxious will pass and before you know it, you’re struggling to keep your head above the water.
Granted, I wasn’t hospitalised but I sincerely cannot remember most of last august or September. I was forced onto the sick from work and hardly left my house without a sighted person with me.
I would never profess to being the most independent blind person I know, but I would say I’m rather self sufficient where mobility is concerned. To be reduced to someone who, if could see, would be frightened of their own shadow is sometimes hard to swallow. But I did become that person. And residual feelings remain now.
I have tried to get back to life. But I am struggling again. I’ve listened to my triggers this time and I’m standing up and saying to myself and everyone around me… I am not OK. And that is completely OK!
Despite all of the coping mechanisms I have learnt over the past few years; Despite the natural remedies I take daily to keep me calm; I am again in a place where I’m struggling to concentrate for long periods. I’m not sleeping or eating well. I have zero energy and I fear for my safety in busy places.
Since 19 July 2021, England changed the rules on social distancing and made it advisable and not a legal requirement to wear a mask. Imagine not being able to see if others are wearing masks. Best case scenario everyone is, but the reality is much different and I will never know if a person is wearing a mask who is standing opposite me on a crowded tram/bus/etc.
This pandemic may feel it is over for most people but for those who live with compromised immune conditions, or a disability that reduces their mobility, this pandemic is far from over. And the real cost to people’s mental health is still to early to count in the atrocities this virus has left behind in its wake.
I hope by reading this, others feel they can stand up and say they are not feeling OK but that’s fine. It’s natural for people to struggle, and to brush this past sixteen months under a carpet and stoically hope for the best, is not the solution we all need.
Please take care and reach out to family/friends/or a professional if you need help.